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The journey I have made hasn't ended yet. I'm not sure where I'll end up or when I'll get there. It isn't so much a destination that I have planned to reach, as simply looking within, growing, changing, and experimenting to discover myself as time and opportunity permit. I am seeking wisdom and peace through accepting myself for who and what I am. A sadist and a dominant from Columbia, SC. I'm not sure if any of this will mean much to anyone else, but to my friends, family, and the world at large, I am ....

Geoff

You may be wondering why I'm doing this, making a web site and all of that nonsense. Good question. I'm not sure that I have a good explanation other than ego. And perhaps as a way of giving back to the world and the BDSM community a little bit of what I got when I was introduced to this life-, love-, and playstyle. As viola Johnson is fond of saying: "Each one, reach one."

I started exploring BDSM online in mid 1997, and in the real world in early 1998. You can do the math for whatever the current date is. It's too much trouble to update the page constantly. *grin* Yes, I have a warped sense of humor.

I was introduced to BDSM online by _maxine, and I will always be in her debt for opening the door to a world I never believed existed. From that online introduction I began to tenatively explore what information there was available, online and in books. Different Loving by Gloria and Will Brame, and Jon Jacobs was an eye-opening read to say the least. Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns and The Loving Dominant soon followed. Then I took the step of actually meeting people. _maxine and Lovesbite were among the first people I met face to face when I finally screwed up the courage to get out from behind the computer screen and start meeting people.

My first experience with a public play space was at The Sanctuary Of A Dark Angel, a dungeon in Atlanta, Georgia, run by Master Doug Harris, with his slave and partner, boy bob harris, and other members of their poly leather Family. The love, energy and acceptance that I found at The Sanctuary is indescribable. It had to be felt to be understood. The only way I can even begin to come close is to say this: When I found The Sanctuary, it felt like I had come home. I felt like I had finally found what I had always been looking for. For several years, The Sanctuary was the spiritual and emotional center of my journey of discovery. Unfortunately The Sanctuary of a Dark Angel is no more, it closed it's doors in 2003. But the legacy lives on.

<>After being introduced to BDSM in the real world, my hunger for knowledge only increased. As did my desire for experience. I travelled, Lord have mercy how I travelled, because there were no local munch groups, no local play spaces, no support or education. So I hit the road. Atlanta, at 4 hours driving time, was the closest point of contact I had for the Scene. I was travelling all over the South to meet people, to get to events, to learn. Austin, Birmingham, Raleigh, Galveston, San Antonio.... The miles I put on that poor car those first 2 - 3 years boggles my mind. I became a member of GWNN (Group With No Name) in Austin, an association that I still maintain.

I was fortunate enough to develop a strong, stable, long distance relationship, and then a poly relationship, with two wonderful women. We were able to meet many times, and we maintained a close emotional relationship through constant contact, e-mail, IRC, and phone when we were not able to be together. I was able to play, to learn, and grow with their help and encouragement. They are still dear to my heart, and though we no longer have the D/s relationship, we are still friends and I hope to maintain that friendship.

Closer to home, I finally found a couple of groups, LOCK in Greenville, SC, and LinX in Charlotte, NC, towards the end of 1998. And there I was, an out of town stranger, but again made to feel welcome and accepted. And the funny thing was that I was running into people from Columbia at these out-of-town munches. I figured if there were people travelling to find fellow kinksters, there ought to be people still in Columbia, that either: A) aren't willing to spend the travel time to get to other cities for this, or B) haven't found these other groups yet. So I had the great brainstorm to start a local munch group.

With much hemming and hawwing, arguing with myself, bouncing the ideas off of others, I finally set a date, called "Allee-allee in-come-free!" and in August of 1999, had the first pansexual munch in Columbia. This Thing That We Do (T3WD) was born. The first meeting was well attended and supported, and the group has been active ever since, educating our community, providing a safe social outlet for our members and guests, and giving Columbia kinksters a group to call their own.

Since that time, I have spent a lot of time reading, educating myself by attending events like Texas Leather Pride, April Bash, Southeast Eat & Beat, making friends and contacts by going to munch groups like GWNN, LOCK and LinX, AIRS, CAPEX, CLOAK, KPOG, MDG, TALON, PEP-Atlanta, ARM, Whippersnappers, and WINK, and just having fun by playing at places like The Sanctuary, The Outback, and 1763. I am an educator, sharing what I have learned and experienced by giving presentations for T3WD and other groups like CLOAK, TAAG and TALON. I am an activist and advocate, being T3WD's representative to the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom (NCSF), raising funds for the organization and working on their Bylaws Committee.

Since March of 2003 I have been involved in a close, growing, loving relationship with janey, a long time member of T3WD. She is my girl, I am her Sir, please be aware that while she submits to ME, that doesn't mean she's submissive to anyone else! *lol* She'll be respectful towards those who are respectful towards her, but pushy tops and Dominants who've tried have found her pushing back. With my blessing. She wears my collar, I hold her leash and I intend to keep it that way. I scene with others, with janey's knowledge and assistance. She's free to play with others herself, but so far, has not found anyone she trusts enough to bottom for except me. And maybe Guy Baldwin! *grins* She thinks he's hot! And as a couple, we are body-fluid monogamous.

While jane is not bi-sexual, and I am not poly-mandatory oriented, we would consider having a third in our relationship who was service oriented, and who would understand that their postion in the household would be a beta serving under janey as alpha. SM play, bondage, discipline, D/s, and a secure, caring environment would come with the position. More could possibly develop over time. I enjoy almost all aspects of SM play, my hard limits are The Four "C's" - NO Children, NO Critters, NO Corpses, NO Ca-ca. Beyond that, pretty much anything else is negotiable. But among the kinds of play I really like are fireplay, needles, flogging, quirts, and canes.

If you are really curious, you can take a peek at my previous page, filled with a lot of romantic, online cyber bs. Of course, not having any minor children now, I can be out about my lifestyle, Family Court can't say diddley-squat about my visiting my kids now. So have a laugh or three, and see what a few years of growing up will do for you....

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